Although love carries the weight of various claimed definitions and bustling emotions, one feature of love that remains consistently concrete and certain is honesty. In the absence of honesty, you cannot obtain a true love, not with yourself nor with another person.
Unless the concept and action of honesty has been repeatedly pummeled into your brain since birth, I believe it takes some time to fully realize what honesty creates. In regards to this issue, I can speak from experience. I feel that I am just now grasping the concept and action of honesty. I am accepting honesty into my life because I have seen the results that it can produce.
Honesty can create initial pain and confusion not only for yourself, but for the other party too. Perhaps the reason it takes some people so long to get in the habit of being consistently honest is that they are afraid of the pain and confusion that may accompany it. However, although those hurting and baffling feelings bounce around in your brain, it's the after-effect of honesty that makes you feel ocean-cleansed and brand new. The pure fact that you have no secrets to hold in and worry about relieves a plethora of stress. Your actions, words, thoughts, and what have you are now out in the open. That may worry you a little bit, but once some time passes, you will realize that it does not matter what other people think. We are all selfish creatures. Yes, it's all about you.
Staying honest with yourself and with others shows that you are genuinely interested in developing and maturing into your highest capabilities. You will earn respect and gain trust from many people. Some may look down on you for who you actually are, but those are the people that you should not allow to affect your life. Rise above their negativity and be the person that you have always wanted to be.
I choose to be honest because I was once a dishonest person. I emotionally hurt myself and others that I loved and cared for. Since I am help-natured and carry an innate trait of helping anyone in need, I finally came to the realization that holding secrets and proceeding with dishonesty is not the correct path I should take. I should not hurt anyone by being untruthful.
Secrets and lingering thoughts are no longer trapped inside. I stand my ground and blurt out honesty because I know that the saying that I heard many times as a child is actually true. "The truth will set you free." Once you are set free by telling the truth, I promise that you will love yourself even more. If your significant other knows that you are an honest person and he or she agrees to be the same, your relationship with one another will be much stronger.
Honesty - give it a try. What can honesty do for you?
I was once a dishonest person as well. A long time ago, I changed my ways, and I have loved honesty since. There's no point in lying to someone or yourself. It creates a life that is not real, and over time, you being to believe the things that are not actually true that you say. My mother always told me that "Lies fly, then fall." I have lived an honest life for a very long time, which has molded me into the person I am now. I wake up, make my bed, brush my teeth, do all the good stuff, and continue with my day, not knowing what it will bring me, but as long as I am honest with myself and my peers, there is nothing that I cannot do. Anything and everything is possible. I agree, when two people are joined together by the forces of love, being honest people can help create such a healthy and balanced relationship. Honesty can create life's adventure for you. :)
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