This blog is written by request for my good friend.
Our souls are no strangers to throwing on pajamas, staying inside, and taking naps on rainy days. Our consciousnesses shut down and the clatter of T.V. shows murder our thoughts, leaving us brain dead with acceptance and nothing else to do. Unfortunately, for some individuals, their relationships have them living in day-to-day rainshowers. They accept their relationships "as is," and have no desire to change or develop any aspect of their committments. They have become too comfortable and their significant others have become mere pieces of furniture in a room.
Some stay in flatline relationships because they legitimately fear being alone. Some force themselves to continue with rocky relationships because they feel that there is no one else in the world that would want them. Some couples have made a lifelong committment through marriage and wish they vowed "until boredom do us part." No matter the reason for being involved in a stagnant and poisonous relationship, the issue of self seems to be involved.
The key to avoid reaching the edge of the relationship cliff is simple. Find your love for yourself and never let it go. It is fine to share common interests and do fun activities with your significant other, but don't forget about the things that you love to do most. For example, my boyfriend loves college football. I love playing piano. When college football is on T.V., that is my boyfriend's time. I try not to bother him and let him enjoy what he loves. If I feel like trying my luck at composing a song, I will shut the bedroom door and bang away on my keyboard unbothered. Although we both love each other and share common interests in things such as working out, taking small trips, and being sociable, we haven't forgotten about those things that we hold close to our hearts.
In a previous relationship that I was in, my life became my boyfriend's life. I had not played piano in years. I didn't go to church as regularly. I rarely hung out with those that I cared about the most. My entire focus shifted from what I loved to do to what he loved to do. Oddly enough, he seemed to do the same thing. Our lives were fused into a dangerous black hole and the outside world couldn't see us as we seemed to be light years away.
If you continue to pursue what you love, I truly believe that you will love yourself more. If you do what you love and succeed at it, you will gain more self-confidence and eventually realize what is most important in your life. You will be more aware of the world surrounding you and take care not to let yourself go in a relationship. Also, a relationship that involves two individuals who bring different items to the table makes a committment more exciting! One can teach the other what he or she knows best. The adventures would be never-ending and your every day lives would be enriched with the unknown.
If you feel that you each know everything about each other and there is nothing more to learn, think again. Share your deepest, darkest secrets. Reveal your most scandalous fantasies. Put yourself in uncomfortable situations and learn how the other handles it. Push the other's buttons for the hell of it and see how you can both come together and handle the situation. Travel to a different country, meet new friends, and have no fear when it comes to trying new things. Divorce rates have skyrocketed because boredom has crowned itself king. Don't subject yourselves to the impervious ruler and crown yourself the king (or queen) of your own relationship. Your life is too short to give up on love because you fell victim to your mild form of ADD.
If you think that no one else in the world wants you besides your lowly, no-good boyfriend or girlfriend, you are wrong. I know of one person that wants you. YOU. You want to be a better person. You no longer want to be sad. You want to love yourself and find a person that truly cares about you for the person you are. You want to focus on your career. You want to improve your lifestyle and be successful. In addition to you, there are plenty of friends and family that care about you. Through these connections, you are sure to meet someone that you can happily share your life with.
Get OUT of your rainy-day lifestyle and jump into the sunshine that awaits you above the clouds. We are never guaranteed another day to live. Think of it this way: if you change your life and leap above the clouds into your utmost happiness and bliss, and if your life were to end tomorrow, you wouldn't have to travel far to get to Heaven. :)
Our souls are no strangers to throwing on pajamas, staying inside, and taking naps on rainy days. Our consciousnesses shut down and the clatter of T.V. shows murder our thoughts, leaving us brain dead with acceptance and nothing else to do. Unfortunately, for some individuals, their relationships have them living in day-to-day rainshowers. They accept their relationships "as is," and have no desire to change or develop any aspect of their committments. They have become too comfortable and their significant others have become mere pieces of furniture in a room.
Some stay in flatline relationships because they legitimately fear being alone. Some force themselves to continue with rocky relationships because they feel that there is no one else in the world that would want them. Some couples have made a lifelong committment through marriage and wish they vowed "until boredom do us part." No matter the reason for being involved in a stagnant and poisonous relationship, the issue of self seems to be involved.
The key to avoid reaching the edge of the relationship cliff is simple. Find your love for yourself and never let it go. It is fine to share common interests and do fun activities with your significant other, but don't forget about the things that you love to do most. For example, my boyfriend loves college football. I love playing piano. When college football is on T.V., that is my boyfriend's time. I try not to bother him and let him enjoy what he loves. If I feel like trying my luck at composing a song, I will shut the bedroom door and bang away on my keyboard unbothered. Although we both love each other and share common interests in things such as working out, taking small trips, and being sociable, we haven't forgotten about those things that we hold close to our hearts.
In a previous relationship that I was in, my life became my boyfriend's life. I had not played piano in years. I didn't go to church as regularly. I rarely hung out with those that I cared about the most. My entire focus shifted from what I loved to do to what he loved to do. Oddly enough, he seemed to do the same thing. Our lives were fused into a dangerous black hole and the outside world couldn't see us as we seemed to be light years away.
If you continue to pursue what you love, I truly believe that you will love yourself more. If you do what you love and succeed at it, you will gain more self-confidence and eventually realize what is most important in your life. You will be more aware of the world surrounding you and take care not to let yourself go in a relationship. Also, a relationship that involves two individuals who bring different items to the table makes a committment more exciting! One can teach the other what he or she knows best. The adventures would be never-ending and your every day lives would be enriched with the unknown.
If you feel that you each know everything about each other and there is nothing more to learn, think again. Share your deepest, darkest secrets. Reveal your most scandalous fantasies. Put yourself in uncomfortable situations and learn how the other handles it. Push the other's buttons for the hell of it and see how you can both come together and handle the situation. Travel to a different country, meet new friends, and have no fear when it comes to trying new things. Divorce rates have skyrocketed because boredom has crowned itself king. Don't subject yourselves to the impervious ruler and crown yourself the king (or queen) of your own relationship. Your life is too short to give up on love because you fell victim to your mild form of ADD.
If you think that no one else in the world wants you besides your lowly, no-good boyfriend or girlfriend, you are wrong. I know of one person that wants you. YOU. You want to be a better person. You no longer want to be sad. You want to love yourself and find a person that truly cares about you for the person you are. You want to focus on your career. You want to improve your lifestyle and be successful. In addition to you, there are plenty of friends and family that care about you. Through these connections, you are sure to meet someone that you can happily share your life with.
Get OUT of your rainy-day lifestyle and jump into the sunshine that awaits you above the clouds. We are never guaranteed another day to live. Think of it this way: if you change your life and leap above the clouds into your utmost happiness and bliss, and if your life were to end tomorrow, you wouldn't have to travel far to get to Heaven. :)
