I get asked a lot if being married is different. Personally, I don't feel much different than when I began dating my now husband. Perhaps the fact that we have lived together for a little over two years has something to do with it. There was no real transition; we didn't buy a house, we didn't have a child, and we didn't move to a new city. The only "transition" that occurred was that we held a wedding to celebrate our passing over the dating/engaged line to being married. No more boyfriend, girlfriend. No more fiancé(e). Just husband and wife. Although there was only a simple stirring of words, I would not have it any other way.
Even if our marriage doesn't feel any different than dating, my heart feels the forever that I've committed to. I look at my husband and feel so at peace knowing that I can count on him, not for just today or for a week from now, but for forever. He has verbalized to me several times that he will always be there for me and will always protect me. That puts me at such peace and harmony.
It's a fantastic feeling to have your heart at peace. I feel most at peace when I'm around my husband, when I go to church and worship God, and when I have moments of silence when I reflect on where I've come from and where I am now. These moments where my heart and my mind sing in accord are the best moments of my life. These moments allow me to exude my utmost confidence, and this is how I believe every woman should feel. To me, marriage is a confidence booster, and I am loving every second of it.
Although marriage makes me feel good, I don't plan to get comfortable with that. Too often, marriages fail due to lack of excitement and lack of change. I may have found my soulmate, but I can't live life laid back in a recliner and just watching it all pass by. A good friend of mine from college and I always had this running joke that we would be "hot" wives. We would never "let ourselves go." Laziness is not allowed. We have to go go go and just...don't...stop. I have my lazy days, but I often think of this promise I've made and I just can't allow myself to sit still. Constantly moving and having something to do is way more exciting than sitting still anyways.
I have never been happier or more confident in my life. Being married may not be so different than dating or being engaged, but the fact that I get to spend every waking moment with my soulmate is more than what I need for a happy and blessed life.
Even if our marriage doesn't feel any different than dating, my heart feels the forever that I've committed to. I look at my husband and feel so at peace knowing that I can count on him, not for just today or for a week from now, but for forever. He has verbalized to me several times that he will always be there for me and will always protect me. That puts me at such peace and harmony.
It's a fantastic feeling to have your heart at peace. I feel most at peace when I'm around my husband, when I go to church and worship God, and when I have moments of silence when I reflect on where I've come from and where I am now. These moments where my heart and my mind sing in accord are the best moments of my life. These moments allow me to exude my utmost confidence, and this is how I believe every woman should feel. To me, marriage is a confidence booster, and I am loving every second of it.
Although marriage makes me feel good, I don't plan to get comfortable with that. Too often, marriages fail due to lack of excitement and lack of change. I may have found my soulmate, but I can't live life laid back in a recliner and just watching it all pass by. A good friend of mine from college and I always had this running joke that we would be "hot" wives. We would never "let ourselves go." Laziness is not allowed. We have to go go go and just...don't...stop. I have my lazy days, but I often think of this promise I've made and I just can't allow myself to sit still. Constantly moving and having something to do is way more exciting than sitting still anyways.
I have never been happier or more confident in my life. Being married may not be so different than dating or being engaged, but the fact that I get to spend every waking moment with my soulmate is more than what I need for a happy and blessed life.
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