In our ever-changing and rapidly growing world, communication has broadened its horizons beyond belief. We find ourselves bouncing among signals from cell phone towers, rubbing our eyes after "Facebooking" for hours, and encountering the occasional face-to-face conversations over delicious dinners. However, as globalization explodes and the ability to communicate with people across the world becomes much easier, there are still individuals that have a problem effectively communicating with those they are interested in, care about, and love.
Perhaps the lack of effective communication from one person to another is due to insecurities. Just as we witness in movies about high school, the shy boy always seems to hide his feelings about someone he likes. Rather than communicating his feelings, he may just keep them bottled up inside. If he becomes a tad bit bolder and wants to tell this person that he likes her, he may upgrade his communication to a handwritten letter from a "secret admirer." The more confident a person is, the more effective his or her communication.
Poor communication can lead to frustration for both parties. The shy person will fall victim to defeat because he or she can't get what he or she wants, all because the other person has no clue that there is some form of attraction. The other person will get frustrated because he or she can't "figure out" this person and will always wonder why he or she keeps staring and gawking without saying a word.
Faulty communication does not solely lie in one's quietness. Those that rely on only texting and social networking as their prime sources of communication with interests and loved ones also lack in the communication department. Although not willing to communicate face-to-face can show that someone has insecurities, it can also prove that this particular person is not interested in pursuing a genuine relationship with you. Granted, there are circumstances where these means of communication are the only means available (for example, if people are trying to communicate between different countries, etc.), but for a person that is using these sources of communication for their close-in-proximity friends and family, it seems that there may be a slight problem.
I once had an experience with someone that texted much more interesting things than what he said to me in person. As much as I enjoyed this person's thoughts and ideas, he never expressed them verbally. The more that this happened, the more disinterested I became. I quickly realized that I couldn't develop a long-lasting relationship with this individual because I became very dissatisfied that he could barely talk to me in person. In my opinion, the less communicative a person is directly, the more boring the relationship (friendly or lovey-dovey) becomes.
Although some individuals are shy, some show his or her colors as social butterflies. However, if this friendly person becomes too loquacious through means of texting or social networking, signs of a clingyness (or annoyingness) could show. We love keeping in touch with our friends and family through any way possible, but if you get upset for our failure to text or send you some sort of message back within five minutes, we may have a problem. Please see my blog post entitled "Being Clingy Will Not Bring You Closer to True Love."
The key to effective communication between any two individuals, whether attracted to each other or just friends or family, is complete and total honesty. If you are honest in your communication, you will be respected and viewed as an honest person. Being honest makes you 100% more attractive than you think you already are.
Also, I believe that there is nothing more honest than a face-to-face conversation. If conversations were only held online and from phone-to-phone, one of the key components of communication, body language, is lost. Double meanings of words start to emerge and a wide variety of assumptions are made. If you really care about someone and want to develop a meaningful relationship with him or her, just make the effort to have a heartfelt conversation with him or her.
Although globalization increases efficiency in our busy lives, I feel that it is important to drop your phone, turn off your computer, and spend a little quality time with those you care about. I dare you to take this challenge and see how many relationships you strengthen because of this.
Perhaps the lack of effective communication from one person to another is due to insecurities. Just as we witness in movies about high school, the shy boy always seems to hide his feelings about someone he likes. Rather than communicating his feelings, he may just keep them bottled up inside. If he becomes a tad bit bolder and wants to tell this person that he likes her, he may upgrade his communication to a handwritten letter from a "secret admirer." The more confident a person is, the more effective his or her communication.
Poor communication can lead to frustration for both parties. The shy person will fall victim to defeat because he or she can't get what he or she wants, all because the other person has no clue that there is some form of attraction. The other person will get frustrated because he or she can't "figure out" this person and will always wonder why he or she keeps staring and gawking without saying a word.
Faulty communication does not solely lie in one's quietness. Those that rely on only texting and social networking as their prime sources of communication with interests and loved ones also lack in the communication department. Although not willing to communicate face-to-face can show that someone has insecurities, it can also prove that this particular person is not interested in pursuing a genuine relationship with you. Granted, there are circumstances where these means of communication are the only means available (for example, if people are trying to communicate between different countries, etc.), but for a person that is using these sources of communication for their close-in-proximity friends and family, it seems that there may be a slight problem.
I once had an experience with someone that texted much more interesting things than what he said to me in person. As much as I enjoyed this person's thoughts and ideas, he never expressed them verbally. The more that this happened, the more disinterested I became. I quickly realized that I couldn't develop a long-lasting relationship with this individual because I became very dissatisfied that he could barely talk to me in person. In my opinion, the less communicative a person is directly, the more boring the relationship (friendly or lovey-dovey) becomes.
Although some individuals are shy, some show his or her colors as social butterflies. However, if this friendly person becomes too loquacious through means of texting or social networking, signs of a clingyness (or annoyingness) could show. We love keeping in touch with our friends and family through any way possible, but if you get upset for our failure to text or send you some sort of message back within five minutes, we may have a problem. Please see my blog post entitled "Being Clingy Will Not Bring You Closer to True Love."
The key to effective communication between any two individuals, whether attracted to each other or just friends or family, is complete and total honesty. If you are honest in your communication, you will be respected and viewed as an honest person. Being honest makes you 100% more attractive than you think you already are.
Also, I believe that there is nothing more honest than a face-to-face conversation. If conversations were only held online and from phone-to-phone, one of the key components of communication, body language, is lost. Double meanings of words start to emerge and a wide variety of assumptions are made. If you really care about someone and want to develop a meaningful relationship with him or her, just make the effort to have a heartfelt conversation with him or her.
Although globalization increases efficiency in our busy lives, I feel that it is important to drop your phone, turn off your computer, and spend a little quality time with those you care about. I dare you to take this challenge and see how many relationships you strengthen because of this.
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