Swimming in the vast sea of singles can be adventurous, fun and entirely unpredictable. Many single people that I have met in my life say they are happy because there is no one to hold them back from doing the things that they have always wanted to do. They date around and sometimes sleep around, which apparently provides a rather stress-free lifestyle since there is no significant other "nagging" at his or her flaws, calling every day to see how they're doing (which I suppose reminds them of their mom or dad?), or influencing them to stay put right where they are.
Testostorone-filled men and Estrogen-packed women live the single life as happy as can be, but we must remember... that the majority of humans on this planet seek one love that they can live with for the rest of their lives. That's right, my friends! A majority of those on Earth seek a relationship in one way or another. Flying solo is fun and apparently stress-free, but I would like to prove to you that, while being single is great, being in a relationship is more stress-free.
So, you're single? The list of things that instantly pop into my mind that you could constantly stress out about:
1. STDs from someone you barely know
2. Impregnating someone that you barely know
3. Getting pregnant by someone you barely know (if you're a female... of course)
4. "Is this person right for me?"
5. "Can I trust this person?"
6. "Is he/she seeing other people?"
7. "What if this person starts 'stalking' me?"
8. Loneliness
I know that not everyone is sexually active, but there is still a pretty good list of stresses that accompany single status. Granted, even people in relationships stress out about sexual issues, but there comes a sigh of relief based on the fact that most of those in relationships are committed and both parties know each other fairly well.
Perhaps the biggest downfall to single life is the feeling of loneliness. Although one may be dating different people and feel connected to one or more of those people, the feeling of loneliness seems to overpower even the strongest chemistry. I imagine that in the single life, two parties can recognize that there is an interest in one another, but without the commitment to a relationship, one doesn't know for sure if that person will always be there for him or her. It's the stress of wonder and worry that takes over those minds.
Some single people don't really date at all and always have a feeling of loneliness lingering over their heads no matter the occasion. It's an unfortunate event, but it's the patience and self-worth that pays off in the end.
Also, to touch on number 6 of the list: single people date other single people, and single people like to date around. To hang out with a single person that you have an instant connection with doesn't guarantee that that person will want to date you. He or she could be going on dates with multiple people, and you almost feel like you're some sort of option in a brand new car lot. You jump up and down on the inside, begging for your "lover" to choose your shiny paint job over the others.
Although it seems I am "bashing" the single life, there are wonderful aspects to it. However, when you get in the vibe of a relationship and place yourself on a roller coaster with a person that you really care about, magic and stress relief happens extremely often - in my case, every single day.
What can a relationship do for you? Let's make a list (Please note that if you are in a bad relationship, some of these may not apply (yet, at least). This is in an ideal relationship.):
1. He/She will ALWAYS be there, no matter what.
2. You fight, but you know that you both can work it out.
3. Constant affection, no need to "search"
4. The feeling of being loved
5. Support with every decision you make
6. Someone to vent to about your frustrations
7. Massages (if you're lucky)
8. No worries about if they're seeing anyone else
Relationships are INCREDIBLE. Just the thought alone of having someone always there to listen to you and support you with whatever decision you make is enough proof that being in a relationship is stress-free. I believe many people only think about the negative side of relationships and use that as evidence to show that relationships are stressful.
I suppose I did the same with the single life, but that was to support my thoughts on this subject. The fact of the matter is that if a relationship and love is what a majority of people deem their ultimate "destination," then those that already have it or are working their way towards it must be absolutely stress-free and happy because they have finally found what they are "looking" for.
Singles, I can imagine that you are enjoying life as much as you can, but realize that relationships contain overflowing love, which propels this universe. To those that are in bad relationships - it takes a few relationships to find the right person for you, but just be patient and the gold will reach your end of the rainbow. To those that are in good relationships - savor these special moments and continue to live your life with no worries.
Testostorone-filled men and Estrogen-packed women live the single life as happy as can be, but we must remember... that the majority of humans on this planet seek one love that they can live with for the rest of their lives. That's right, my friends! A majority of those on Earth seek a relationship in one way or another. Flying solo is fun and apparently stress-free, but I would like to prove to you that, while being single is great, being in a relationship is more stress-free.
So, you're single? The list of things that instantly pop into my mind that you could constantly stress out about:
1. STDs from someone you barely know
2. Impregnating someone that you barely know
3. Getting pregnant by someone you barely know (if you're a female... of course)
4. "Is this person right for me?"
5. "Can I trust this person?"
6. "Is he/she seeing other people?"
7. "What if this person starts 'stalking' me?"
8. Loneliness
I know that not everyone is sexually active, but there is still a pretty good list of stresses that accompany single status. Granted, even people in relationships stress out about sexual issues, but there comes a sigh of relief based on the fact that most of those in relationships are committed and both parties know each other fairly well.
Perhaps the biggest downfall to single life is the feeling of loneliness. Although one may be dating different people and feel connected to one or more of those people, the feeling of loneliness seems to overpower even the strongest chemistry. I imagine that in the single life, two parties can recognize that there is an interest in one another, but without the commitment to a relationship, one doesn't know for sure if that person will always be there for him or her. It's the stress of wonder and worry that takes over those minds.
Some single people don't really date at all and always have a feeling of loneliness lingering over their heads no matter the occasion. It's an unfortunate event, but it's the patience and self-worth that pays off in the end.
Also, to touch on number 6 of the list: single people date other single people, and single people like to date around. To hang out with a single person that you have an instant connection with doesn't guarantee that that person will want to date you. He or she could be going on dates with multiple people, and you almost feel like you're some sort of option in a brand new car lot. You jump up and down on the inside, begging for your "lover" to choose your shiny paint job over the others.
Although it seems I am "bashing" the single life, there are wonderful aspects to it. However, when you get in the vibe of a relationship and place yourself on a roller coaster with a person that you really care about, magic and stress relief happens extremely often - in my case, every single day.
What can a relationship do for you? Let's make a list (Please note that if you are in a bad relationship, some of these may not apply (yet, at least). This is in an ideal relationship.):
1. He/She will ALWAYS be there, no matter what.
2. You fight, but you know that you both can work it out.
3. Constant affection, no need to "search"
4. The feeling of being loved
5. Support with every decision you make
6. Someone to vent to about your frustrations
7. Massages (if you're lucky)
8. No worries about if they're seeing anyone else
Relationships are INCREDIBLE. Just the thought alone of having someone always there to listen to you and support you with whatever decision you make is enough proof that being in a relationship is stress-free. I believe many people only think about the negative side of relationships and use that as evidence to show that relationships are stressful.
I suppose I did the same with the single life, but that was to support my thoughts on this subject. The fact of the matter is that if a relationship and love is what a majority of people deem their ultimate "destination," then those that already have it or are working their way towards it must be absolutely stress-free and happy because they have finally found what they are "looking" for.
Singles, I can imagine that you are enjoying life as much as you can, but realize that relationships contain overflowing love, which propels this universe. To those that are in bad relationships - it takes a few relationships to find the right person for you, but just be patient and the gold will reach your end of the rainbow. To those that are in good relationships - savor these special moments and continue to live your life with no worries.
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